Building or Stumbling Blocks?

When Jesus was talking to his disciples and started talking about his imminent death, Peter was not happy. “This shall never happen to you,” he said. And Jesus whirled around and … actually… let’s pause and grab the Bible… go ahead…  I’ll wait.  We are in Matthew 16:21-24.

What did Jesus say? Oh thank goodness…  I’m so glad you are here!  Umm, no. He said “Get behind me Satan! You are a stumbling block to me.”

Hang on now… Peter is supposed to be the foundation of Church. And Jesus just called him Satan?!  What is going on here??

So we read on…  “You do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.”

When we make our plans for anything in the church, no matter how big or small, do we have in mind the things of God or the things of men?

When we plan an event, we make decisions on how all the pieces will function… identifying a location, what will happen, when it will happen, who is it for, how it will all work. Each and every decision is a building block to constructing the event as a whole.

But did you know those same building blocks are actually stumbling blocks to others? If we choose to host an event for single moms on Tuesday at 10am, while it may work for many, it will not work for a huge portion of the population. We are excluding those single moms who are employed and required to account for their time during the typical work day. That may be fine, as long as you are aware and perhaps even intent on doing the same event at another time to give those left out a chance to participate as well.

Do we chose a certain process because it will make our job easier? Or do we choose what it best for blessing others in spite of the extra work it may cause us?

When we use a room upstairs without elevator access we limit who can participate. When we chose a video that requires us to read, we limit who is able to receive that message. How many decisions do we make that, likely unintentionally, leave out people just because we didn’t think about it from their perspective?

When brainstorming event details, would you consider asking a few other questions:

“Who are we leaving out?”
“Is there anyone who cannot participate if we do it this way?”
“Is there a way to accomplish the same goal but include more people?”
“Does making this task easy for me, make anything about this event hard for someone else?”
“Do our decisions reflect the values we hold dear?”

This isn’t about pleasing everyone. And this isn’t just a disability thing. This is a petition for honest and thorough evaluation of how we do things.

Who are we unintentionally putting up stumbling blocks before and how might we fix that? We have a mandate to avoid creating stumbling blocks. We know we will be held accountable for creating stumbling blocks, and I believe even the unintentional ones. This may be a tough conversation to explore and may add to your planning process, but I am absolutely convinced it will be worth it.

Michelle

“Who’s missing?”

It’s a new year and there is so much to be excited about.  There will soon be a book published to help families be better advocates for themselves and their faith and there are already teaching opportunities on the calendar. I would like to draw your attention, though, to the things we learned at General Assembly last June 2018. I would highly recommend everyone meander over to the EPC You Tube channel and listen again to what was shared.

While they are all powerful words, Dean Weaver’s message should be mandatory listening for anyone desiring to understand this great big topic of accessibility. While you listen to his words, would you consider this question: “who’s missing?”

“After this I looked, and behold, a great multitude that no one could number, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and language, standing before the throne and before the lamb, clothed in white robes, with palm branches in their hand, and crying out with a loud voice, “Salvation belongs to our God who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb!”

Revelation 7:9-10

If our body of believers does not include a multitude from all tribes and peoples and languages, we do not properly reflect the Kingdom of God. And no one can tell me this is only about race or ethnic diversity. If the disabled community were to be formally recognized as a minority group, it would be one of the largest. In the United States they are 19% of the population.

So many of our neighbors with disabilities, their families and/or caregivers are missing from our churches. Do you have a plan to go and tell them the good news of Jesus? If not, let’s fix that.

“I never felt disabled until…”

My new friend Eve* is legally blind. I had picked her up so she could attend a meeting with me on the other side of the region. We talked about many things over the forty minute drive, but one statement has stuck like crazy glue in my mind.

“I never felt disabled until I moved here.”

She moved to the area to be with ailing family. Our public transportation system is inadequate. The handi-ride system is worse. To hear her talk, no one here has really considered the needs of those with limited vision trying to be productive members of society.

Many who are by definition, disabled, do not consider themselves so. They stand in the margins between the “medical” model of disability and the “social” model.

The medical model says that people are disabled by their impairments or differences. It focuses on what is wrong with a person and emphasizes the need for a cure. The social model says that disability is caused by the way society is organized and the attitudes of others. (Thank you Disability Nottinghamshire for an excellent explanation of the two models!)

An individual in a wheelchair only becomes disabled when we choose to install steps instead of sloped entries. Someone who is legally blind becomes disabled when she cannot get across town on her own because we don’t have a sufficient transportation network. 

When my baby couldn’t handle the decibels of the Sunday morning music due to sensory sensitivities, we became disabled. I was in the nursery by myself with my child on most Sunday mornings. There wasn’t an alternative space where I could experience the worship hour at a lesser volume. Why was I getting myself out the door to go sit in a musty nursery by myself? Eventually we stopped attending.

The baby’s sensitivities were not disabling until we tried to attend church. Would you stop to ponder and pray about that statement a moment? Did any scripture come to mind? Maybe something about the weak being indispensable? Maybe something about stumbling blocks?

I believe with all my heart that our churches are incomplete without the presence and participation of people with disabilities. (Thank you Erik Carter for this statement.) Do people with disabilities attend your church? Are they using their gifts to strengthen the Body of Christ?

If not…  we can fix that!

*Eve is not her real name.